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Mark as Offensive 10/29/2009 9:45:25 PM |
Mkay, so I'm going ot spill my guts about my life/problems which prolly seem quite trivial...but here goes..
ya'll know about my first problem...and for those of you who don't well...you'll find out sometime....but this past summer, this guy I liked, Kevin, started talking with my friend...and He asked her to wear his football jersey and stuff like that. She said yes. even though she knew I like him. >=| and then at the beginging of this year he and his best friend started dating sisters from the town over, which kinda screwed me up real bad for a while. We barely talk anymore...but he started talking to me, and I thought i could handle it. I guess things started to go back to normal, like before I told him I like him...and I was ok with that, because I valued the fact he actually wanted to talk to me.
Anyways,He started being a real dick ever since he started dating "haylee" ( and yeah, she's the blonde, volleyball player type) I told him this and he took it completly the the wrong way...but it was kinda the right way...since I meant to tell him that I still like him....
anyways...just wondering if you lovely people here think i should lie if he asks me if I still like him...or, if I should go the whole nine yards and tell him that nouthing's changed??
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Mark as Offensive 10/29/2009 9:52:51 PM |
Umm lying about something like that could cause issues in the future and could end up making the situation worse.
And you never know, maybe telling him nothings changed could totally change his perspective, if he believes otherwise.
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Schaible
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Mark as Offensive 10/29/2009 10:13:47 PM |
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well...the whole reson I was contemplating lying to him was to make sure things stayed "Normal" between us, since things just started to be "normal"...
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Mark as Offensive 10/29/2009 10:21:24 PM |
Some people are just suited for the "silent suffering" type. If you think you can live, and survive, for the time being with him thinking you don't like him then by all means lie. But do not do so lightly.
You may prefer a "normal" friendship and that's fine. It just depends on what you think you can live with.
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Mark as Offensive 10/30/2009 3:15:27 AM |
it always seems trivial except when your living it, then its all serious.........
would you mind elightening me about your first "problem"??
with your dude, i would avoid the question of whether you like him or not for as long as i could, and just let him draw his own conclusion, but if he did ask, i would say be straight with him. if he asks, he wants to know.
unless of course, you think hes going to make an embarassing thing of it, and humilate you........ i guess it really depends if your happy lying to him or not.........
and it sounds as if things arent "normal" between yous anyway, if hes being a dick...........
ahh, well, i doubt ive been any help........but thats my take on it...... hope it ends well :)
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Mark as Offensive 10/30/2009 7:50:47 PM |
I've actually been in a situation like this, where i liked one of ma really good mates and he had spent the term before summer trying ta find out who it was i liked and i wouldnt tell him and then we didnt really talk at all over summer and he got a gf, but then he started talking ta me again and having fun like we had used to and started asking who i liked again and i finally told him that it was him and our friendships just grown more, i mean he still has his gf and she doesnt really like me cause he kinda has more time for me than her, but we're are actually still friends and shiz...so in the end things would could have been better if i had just told him in the first place that it was him i had liked....so you definately should not lie to him!
Tell him.
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Schaible
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Mark as Offensive 10/30/2009 8:04:08 PM |
@ and_yet_again-Well...It sounds super dumb when I write about it..but here goes...So ya'll know that I go to one of the tiniest schools around...And everyone knows almost everything about everyone. Anyways...Im a freshman this year, and I started liking this guy "Kevin" in the 6th grade-FML-
My best guy friend, Let's call him Brady, started asking me who i liked and all that crap around last christmas..and I told him(over Facebook Chat) that I liked Kevin. He then copy-and-pasted the whole convo and sent it to Kevin-FML-Anyways...It's been so freakin' ackward since then..and over summer vacation I hadn't seen him in 3 months...and I was OK with that. First day of school, I saw him, and it was like BAM!!! Everything came back...Everything.
I know this can't possibly make sense because it's kinda confusing me right now...
@Punk Girl and Cows....thanks for the advice...
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Cows101
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Mark as Offensive 10/30/2009 8:22:01 PM |
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hope i heped
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and_yet_again
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Mark as Offensive 10/30/2009 10:00:16 PM |
schaible....... it doesnt sound dumb it just sounds......well, normal...........thanks for filling me in anyhow...........
well, cant say i have any excellent advice that will fix everything for you.........but i really hope you do ok, and figure out what to do...........i wish happy endings for you ..........:)
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Schaible
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Mark as Offensive 11/10/2009 9:02:40 PM |
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well...here's an update for anyone who really gives a rip..but, Kevin's friend and his GF broke up...which means Kevin does NOT have a ride over to his Girls friends house...=)
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and_yet_again
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Mark as Offensive 11/10/2009 10:59:21 PM |
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well.......that can only be a good thing hey.........
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